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Hi and welcome to the February 2017 issue of Catch the Coach! (Watch the video version above)
Since February is famous as being the month of love with Valentine’s Day at the heart of the month I thought I’d dedicate this whole issue to the topic of love – in all it’s dimensions. So here I explore 5 dimensions of love – and one extra for luck.
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Tip for the Month: Follow your heart
Often our minds are so noisy we loose touch with our true self, our purpose and what is true to us – and that which truly nourishing for us.
- Listen to your heart – Don’t just think. Deeply tune in to yourself and others.
- Trust your heart: Decision-making? Don’t rely solely on you mind. Check how you feel
- Follow your heart: Whenever you’re in ‘two minds’ trust heart to guide your path.
- Self Love
“Self love is the first love and the foundation of love”
Without this life is hollow.
Without it there is no inner peace.
Without it all other relationships will prove challenging.
Without it you’ll always look to others to make you feel complete.
With it all relationships can be, dance, sing, blossom and breathe.
Top Tip: Embrace yourself and life itself as it is today. In this way all your inner battles battles – and most of your worldly ones – will be resolved instantly and peacefully.
- Family Love
Family relationships can be among the most comforting, nourishing, supportive… and the most challenging and traumatic.
Whatever has or hasn’t happened in the past know that with mindfulness you will be wiser for accepting – and taking the learning from all of your high and low tides. Love them close if that is how life has flowed. Love them from a distance if you’ve drifted apart.
- You do not own them – don’t try to control them
- Hug them but do not try to keep them in your hold
- Let your differences be your richness not your divide
- Give everyone the space that they need to grow
- All in it wise to let everyone live their own life
Friendships are often among the most powerful and empowering of all life’s relationships.
The saying “just friends” should only be uttered by unwise. They are often the most fundamental to our day-to-day love.
- Let them know that you love them
- Be grateful for them all – past and present
- Be there when they call and need support – and reach out when you sense the need
- Know that you may come together, drift apart, travel together or go your own ways
- Wish everyone well whatever path they take.
- Your Partner / lover
“If you truly seek love – or seek to truly and deeply love – live life with an open heart”
If you seek love be open to it. If you’re in love cherish it. The lover, partner, husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend relationship can be the most powerful, magical and significant relationship. It can also be full of conflict or illusive if you are closed, controlling or fearful.
Top Tips…. Honour 3 things
1) Yourself – be who you are
2) Your partner – let them be, breathe, grow
3) The relationship; tend it, nourish it, cherish that you had it if it has passed
So the secret is to honour all 3 individually and as a whole.
As with all relationships it may last a single season and most of a lifetime. It is the richness, quality, love and depth that is the true measure of this type of love not the time length – which you cannot know or fully control.
5.Your life work… your career / business
First find what you love and then follow it and become one with it.
- Clarity – be clear on roles, strengths, vision, values, needs and (common) goals
- Consistent –be true to you word and put your best into your work
- Caring – care about doing a good job and care about others welfare
- Considerate – look at things from various viewpoints – especially customers
- Cheerful and cordial – smiles, joy and appreciate make work worthwhile
And finally; things you love to do
“Don’t get lost in the love of things – but rather in the things you love to do. “
Getting caught up in possessions can be a trap. But finding joyful pass-times, hobbies and interests can be a wonderful escape, beautiful discovery and the perfect antidote. Don’t get so caught up in worth that you forget to play. This fun, freedom, creativity can bring richness and new dimensions to all the other aspects of your life and relationships.